Follow these steps in the order provided to effectively address the situation.

Step 1: Identify Gaslighting

• Reflect on the Situation: Step back and think about the situation on your own. Determine if you were wronged or portrayed inaccurately.

Step 2: Seek Feedback

• Consult Trusted Individuals: Share the situation with people you trust without mentioning names. Ask for their perspective on who was right or wrong and by how much.

Step 3: Assess the Pattern

• Evaluate Frequency: Determine if the gaslighting is a one-time occurrence or a frequent behavior by the gaslighter. Look for patterns in their behavior.

Step 4: Minimize Interaction

• Avoid the Gaslighter: If possible, request to be put on different projects to avoid interaction. If the gaslighter is your boss or a team member, this may be difficult.

Step 5: Address the Issue Directly

• Set a Meeting: Arrange a private meeting with the gaslighter to discuss the situation. Explain how their behavior affects you and seek a resolution.

Step 6: Escalate to HR

• Report to HR: If direct discussion does not resolve the issue, report the gaslighting to your HR department. HR should help resolve the situation.

Step 7: Consider Job Change

• Evaluate Job Satisfaction: If HR does not resolve the issue and the gaslighting continues, consider looking for a new job to maintain your happiness and well-being.

Risk Assessment

• Weigh the Risks: Consider the risks of addressing the gaslighter directly. Some people may react negatively, so evaluate if it is worth the risk based on the frequency and severity of the gaslighting.

Personal Decision

• Choose Your Approach: Decide whether to address the issue based on your own self-respect and the potential for future occurrences. Different people have different approaches, so choose what works best for you.

This guide aims to help you navigate the steps to take when dealing with gaslighting at work and understand the potential outcomes of each step.